Imagine what it’s like to live with chronic pain. There are many things outside of your control.
Here are some ideas to help in the most respectful way.
- Let them maintain their dignity.
- Give choices
- Ask for permission to offer ideas
- Respect their privacy. They are entitled to private thoughts and feeling.
- Create the plan in advance. When you have pain, your blind spot increases. Have a conversation when things are calm. Ask your loved one, “What would you like me to do if I see into your blind spot?”
“I’ve noticed that when it’s time for you to eat, you get a blank look in your eyes, and you get frustrated. After a snack, you are much calmer. What would you like me to do when I see the signs that it’s time to get something to eat?
6. Ask how you can be most helpful. Say, “I love you and I want the best for you. How am I doing? What can I do better?”
7. Don’t take it personally. Your loved one may take your help, and they may not. It’s okay of they do not.
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