Step 5

5. Master the fine art of verbal persuasion.

Directing attention to the pain can turn up its intensity.  Even the thought, “Get rid of this pain!” paradoxically can make the pain worse.

Distraction with thoughts about anything else can can make it better.

You can improve your loved one’s condition by distracting them.

The brain is at its best when it experiences joy.  Find ways of bringing joy and laughter into your loved one’s life.  Be creative.  If someone adores being at the ocean, for example, download sounds of splashing waves to their laptop.  Bring a Betta fish.  Collect a container of shells or sea-polished pebbles. Consider colored pencils or watercolors and a sketch pad to paint ocean pictures.

Watch silly movies.  The field of gelantology studies why laughter is good medicine.

Delight all the senses.  The smell of freshly baked bread or lilics can transport you to another place and time.

Well-timed distraction works as well as pain medication.

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