6. Play it safe.
Caring for a loved one in pain is like throwing a Thanksgiving dinner. Many family caregivers think they have to do the whole thing–clean the house, shop, cook and serve. Instead you can throw a caregiving potluck. Let people contribute what’s easy for them to bring.
Sometimes you best serve someone in pain by knowing when to say no. If you are tired or stressed, your loved one may feel guilty for burdening you. If you are feeling anger or resentment with the person in pain, these feelings create distance rather than connection. Even though it’s hard to step away, you will do the greatest good by helping with an open heart.